Stop Being A Nice Guy

With the recently distorted version and the perceptions of nice people in our modern world, Njabulo tackles how being nice has become a disadvantage to most people.

The concept of being a nice person is slowly but surely reverting to its original meanings and perceptions. The word “nice” originally comes from the Latin word Nescius, meaning ignorant or unaware. Over the last centuries, it kept on changing its meaning. In the old French, in the 12th century, the word meant careless, weak, clumsy, foolish, or stupid. In recent years, the word and its perceptions have slowly been reverting to these types of meaning.

The old-age saying that goes “nice guys finish last” has never been truer.

On this book, Njabulo addresses this phenomenon in great detail and therefore provides an antidote for those people who are tired of being nice to those who never reciprocate, those who are fed up of being taken advantage of, those who are always helpful but never receive the help when they need it, and those that are just tired of always finishing last.

There are real-life examples along with research evidence that proves that being a nice guy or generally being considered a nice person may have more negative effects rather than positives in an individual. This book further shows and provides a suggestion that it is better to be considered a kind person rather than a nice person.